There are a few reasons why children stop using their own inborn genius traits. One of the main reasons is the Antigenius (pronounced ˈan-tə-jēn-yəs). The word antigenius is usually used as an adjective to describe conduct.
When we refer to antigenius behavior, we are simply referring to conduct that is the opposite of the genius trait as described by Dr. Alfred Barrios. I’ll give you an example. Let’s pick a genius characteristic.
Here is the Barrios description of the genius characteristic of Honesty:
Geniuses are frank, forthright and honest. Take the responsibility for things that go wrong. Be willing to admit, ‘I goofed.’ and learn from your mistakes.
Now here is the antigenius description of Honesty: Antigenius conduct is dishonest, tricky, and deceptive. Never take responsibility for things that go wrong. Never be willing to admit, ‘I goofed.’ and never learn from your mistakes.
Get the idea? Just scan the list of the 24 genius characteristics. Pick any one of them and turn the positive actions into negative actions and you’ll have antigenius behavior.
I’m not sure that there is any person on this planet that is a 100% antigenius. There’s no bogeyman. Although, one time, I had a little Latino boy take one look at me and run away screaming, “El Kookooee!” [That’s the legendary Mexican bogeyman.]
You laugh, but I’m not joking.
However, I think if we’re all honest with each other we can agree that each of us has at one time or another exhibited some antigenius conduct ourselves. Nobody’s perfect. At least, nobody I know—except my one-and-a-half-year-old granddaughter.
All we can do is strive to be a genius and guard against any antigenius conduct.
There’s a reason why it’s important for you to understand and identify antigenius behavior. It’s because sometimes children will stop using their innate genius characteristics when they encounter antigenius conduct.
What we have found over and over again is that people doing our genius training courses realize that they had these characteristics as children and when they came in contact with antigenius behavior repeatedly, they stopped using their own genius characteristic.
Children are easily influenced by adults’ positive and negative actions or reactions. Here’s a common example:
Child: “Daddy, why does the moon change sizes?” (Child exhibits the genius trait of Curiosity.)
Father: “Move out of the way, I can’t see the game. Don’t ask silly questions.” (Ignoring, or worse, discouraging a child’s natural Curiosity is antigenius behavior.)
Parents (or other people) discouraging the genius conduct of a child will eventually cause the child to stop using their inherent genius characteristic. If the antigenius behavior directed at the child or teenager (or even adults) is severe enough, all it takes is one time for the child to stop demonstrating the genius characteristic.
So, this is no small matter. You should always seek to apply the genius characteristic of Outgoingness and be a booster to encourage genius conduct whenever you encounter it in children or adults. That’s the best advice I can offer you.
13. Outgoingness: “I’ve found geniuses able to make friends easily and be easy on their friends. Be a ‘booster,’ not someone that puts others down. That attitude will win you many valuable friends.”—Dr. Alfred Barrios
If you’ll be a booster to your children, family, friends, and colleagues, you’ll be liked and admired by one and all.
Always remember to use Outgoingness. Be a booster. And be a genius.